Does Everything Happen for a Reason? by PJ Trebelhorn

bsb_trusting_tomorrow__16587Congratulations to Kathy! She won a signed copy of Trusting Tomorrow from PJ Trebelhorn.

Check it out! Author PJ Trebelhorn stopped by to talk about her latest release, Trusting Tomorrow. It’s available now from Bold Strokes Books and, because PJ is super cool, she’s giving away a signed copy here at Women & Words! Woo!

First, let me give you the hook up for how to find PJ online. Check out her website HERE. Be friends with her on facebook HERE. And buy her books HERE (paperback) and HERE (ebook).

Now, about that free book…

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Does Everything Happen for a Reason?
by PJ Trebelhorn

When Jove asked me if I’d be interested in writing a blog, I panicked a bit. I’ve only written one other blog before, and I had no idea what I’d write for this one. Of course, my latest book, Trusting Tomorrow, is out this month from Bold Strokes Books, and I hope you’ll all buy it and let me know what you think about it. But what could I possibly write about to tie it all in with the book? I mean, Logan is a funeral director. What would you write about that?

Have you ever watched Storage Wars? For those of you who haven’t, I’ll explain a little. When people have their stuff in a storage unit and then don’t pay their bill, the units get auctioned off to the highest bidder. It really isn’t that simple, but it suffices for my story here. My partner, Cheryl, and I have been going to storage auctions for a few years now.

Embalming MachineLast year in Rochester, New York, we went to a storage auction where one of the units was actually the corner of a warehouse. There was no way all of it would have fit in a real storage unit. In fact, we had to rent a semi-trailer to store the stuff and it almost filled that. But I digress. As you’ve no doubt concluded, we were the high bidders. The only reason Cheryl decided she really wanted that particular unit was because during my research for Trusting Tomorrow, I learned about many things involved in the funeral business, including embalming machines. I pointed one out to her amongst the chaos we were looking at.

I’m not sure anyone else there knew they were looking at the contents of a funeral home. In fact if they had realized it, I’m not sure the bidding would have gone as high as it did. A surprising number of people have been creeped out by it when we tell them. Especially by the salesman’s sample of a coffin we have. It’s just the corner, but it’s1/8 of a real casket. People either love it or hate it, but one thing’s for sure—it’s a conversation starter.

Salesman Sample CasketThere’s really only a couple of units we’ve bought that we made money on, and this was one of them. We even got new living room furniture for Cheryl’s parents out of it. Heck, we made almost four times our money back on that embalming machine alone. Who knew something like that would sell on eBay for so much money?

Anyway, I’d like to say I got the idea for Trusting Tomorrow from that storage unit, but the fact is I was already writing it. I’d spoken to a funeral director in Pennsylvania and gotten most of my information from him before we moved to western New York State. But there were quite a few blank forms (death certificates and such) and pamphlets (pre-planning your funeral, etc.) in that storage unit that helped a great deal too.

Actually, Logan and Brooke had been in the back of my mind for years leading up to this. When I was younger, I briefly thought about becoming a funeral director. But as I wrote in the book, it’s a lonely profession, and not many people want to be friends with someone who buries people for a living.

There are parts of me in this book too, and I never really intended for that to happen. Without giving away any spoilers, my last relationship ended the way Brooke’s did. Almost exactlylike Brooke’s did. I haven’t shared that with many people, and it was surprisingly easy to write about. Of course, I’m almost twenty years removed from my break-up while Brooke’s emotional wounds are still fresh.

The biggest difference between my situation and hers, though? I moved from Oregon to New Jersey with the woman who left me less than two years later. All of my family was three thousand miles away and I was stuck on the east coast with only a couple of good friends. And honestly—I wouldn’t change a thing.

If I’d pursued becoming a funeral director, I probably would have ended up like Logan and would have stayed in Oregon. Instead, I found myself on the east coast and ended up like Brooke. If I hadn’t come to New Jersey, I never would have met Cheryl, and we just celebrated our seventeenth anniversary. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.


  1. i have watched storage auctions as well. actually i think there is another version called Storage Wars.. same basic idea, though. lots of fun wondering what is behind those closed doors..
    and thanks so much for sharing your story as well. PJ.. smile.. and best wishes with the new book. I look fwd to reaing it…


    • There’s a lot of them, Kathy. Storage Wars, Auction Hunters, Storage Hunters to name a few. They’re all staged to a certain extinct, but sometimes you get lucky and find some great stuff.


      • Hi PJ i saw the pictures of all the stuff you got.. I have never seen an embalming machine before either..
        you and Cheryl must have had a field day.. arent you glad now you became a writer instead of a funeral director? much more socially acceptable.. LOL


  2. I, too, am a firm believer everything happens for a reason. Sometimes I wish the reason would reveal itself sooner. I look forward to an opportunity to read your book.


    • Also a follower of this philosophy – the path of your life is building you for what is to come, without the knocks you wouldn’t have the strength and skills you have.


  3. Wow, I never had seen an embalming machine left in a storage unit….while I worked for a mortuary for a while, that in itself is a little creepy. LOL. I look forward to reading your book also!


  4. I enjoyed True Confessions and From This Moment On. This new book looks intriguing;
    it’s on my wish list.


  5. PJ, thanks for sharing your stories with us, I especially enjoyed your blog and will be looking forward to reading your book as soon as Pay Day rolls around.


  6. I never was a believer that everything happened for a reason until some occurrences in my life in 2009. Until then I was a “tried and true” Murphy’s Law believer. For me, my eye opening experience was a lifesaver. On 01/03/09 I was displaced from my job of 30 yrs., which I anticipated staying at until retirement age. I thought my life was over. Little did I know it was just the beginning of a journey that is still taking place. We were going to have a 2 week window on our health insurance, so I went and had all my physical stuff done. Blah-blah-blah. End result: breast cancer. Very early stages, however something my mother died from having. Positive in one breast, pre-cancer in the other. Of course, day 1 after the news was not enlightening. Nor day 2, 3, or 4. But, several weeks after my surgery I realized if it had not been for losing my job, I know I would not have had that mammogram done in a timely manner. Perhaps, losing my job is what saved my life.

    So, Yes PJ and all you other folk out there, I DO believe that everything happens for a reason. Even this blog which gives me the avenue to attest to this.

    Thanks for all you’ve shared, PJ.


    • Wow, Lori, thank you for sharing your story. My mom had breast cancer at age 33, and this past April celebrated her 75th birthday.

      I hope everything is going well for you now.


  7. Looking forward to the read. I toyed with bejng a mortician (I’m a field biogist and pick up dead things all the time, I’m a loner, not afraid of death) until I realized I’d have to maneuver 300 pound bodies by myself! No thanks! And I I absolutely agree things happen for a reason, even the not so great things.


    • Baxter, I’m sitting here LMAO right now. Watched R&I episode last night and your post sounds like the makings of a book. Check out the ep if you haven’t seen it. Toyed with being a mortician, pick up dead things, etc, etc. Screams book to me!


    • Actually, the story behind the reason the contents of the funeral home was in storage is thriller-worthy in itself….


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