I saw on Facebook the other day that someone posted a “daily affirmation,” which stated (more or less) that if you let go of negativity and think positively, everything will work out.
I started thinking about this and wondered, is it really that everything works out, or is that being positive forces you to look at an event or the results of an event in a positive way and, therefore, it looks like it worked out, regardless of what actually happened? I suppose that either way, you end up in a good place.
This is one of those “woo woo” questions that there’s really no answer for. But just for shits and giggles, let’s set up a scenario.
Let’s say you wrote a novel and it got trashed in a review, which prevented you from getting it mentioned in an article that you knew (based on certain facts and statistics) would have led to lots of sales and you were really bummed about it because you were planning on using your profits to help you transition into full-time writing. But your fans rallied around you and talked all over the internet about what a wonderful writer you are and that led to some sales, but nothing like you would have gotten from the publicity from the article. Still, it boosted your morale and prompted you to write more stuff, which led to more sales, but you have to keep your full-time job.
So, in that scenario, did things work out? I mean really work out? Or is it that a “positive person” would see the good things that came out of the situation and would choose to recognize only those? After all, the writer’s plans to quit her job and write full time got dashed, so it didn’t really work out, did it?
In case you haven’t figured it out, this whole positive thinking thing is fairly new to me, introduced to me only a few short years ago. I grew up in a negative environment, borne of hard-lived lives and post-WWII survival attitudes. Where my family was concerned, positive thinking was okay in your spare time, but in everyday life, you had to face realities. And that’s how I shaped up—as a realist. The term itself doesn’t seem inherently anti-positive, but if you think about what it means to be a realist, how you need to look at life as a realist, positivity is the opposite.
Then again, a positive person might argue that point with me and say that you can be “real” and make realistic decision, while still believing that the best results will occur.
My point is that my newfound quest for positivity is truly being tested. I’m not sure I’m going to pass the test, but the important thing is the journey, not the destination.
There, wasn’t that a positive thought?
But if the destination is positivity and it is not reached, then was the journey a success anyway?
Ah, all things to think about. If it doesn’t hurt your brain too much.
Next Thursday is Thanksgiving and I won’t be posting. I hope you all have a safe, healthy, and happy Thanksgiving, a day for positive affirmations.