A reader’s perspective of the breaking point
The second year that Kim and I did the AIDS LifeCycle it was a little different than the first year. The first year we had no idea what to expect, including what to wear, which is why on the second day at the second rest stop we were suffering from hypothermia. What started out as a cloudy day turned into a light rain that turned into a heavier rain that turned into a miserable morning to ride. On that first year we called it quits for the day at that second rest stop, got on a bus and headed for a hot shower at camp and left 60 miles unridden. The second year I found out how much those 60 miles really come into play.
Ugh! Come day three I was a full on raging jerk and I have no idea how Kim ever put up with me. Seriously! I’m still shaking my head in embarrassment. But I do know that I am the luckiest person in the world to have someone as kind, considerate and amazing as Kim.
I don’t want to ever do anything to jeopardize that relationship so I try my hardest to be as good to her as she is to me. I try to communicate with her and though I don’t always have the best communication techniques the intent is there. I fully believe that she tries to do the same. And I’m no expert on relationships but this one makes me happy and communication seems pretty key to that happiness.
When we were driving around one weekend we were talking about all the things that destroy relationships. Break-ups have been explored in different LesFic novels along with the reasons of what caused the break-ups. This could be the time where I put out a bunch of spoilers but I’m not that kind of reader. I like for everyone to get the full experience of a story including the goods and bads of relationships so you aren’t going to get any titles or cool cover arts this time. But it made us think, what could jeopardize a relationship?
How about for you? What makes a feasible reason for breaking up with someone? One scenario that seems to be a popular reason is infidelity. Yeah. That would be a heart breaker for me too, but should it even be a possibility if there is good communication? Lack of communication can cause a bunch of problems though. What about not communicating to your partner that you lost your job or that you lost all your money in a scam or something? Has that ever been in a story or is that not exciting enough? That would be pretty big though I mean if you can’t trust a person to tell you that you are in financial ruin and that your lifestyle is going to drastically change that seems to be a bit of a breaking point.
Communication darn it!! For me, though, these stories of break-ups and betrayals are incredibly hard to read. I even wrote an author once and thanked her for the story but told her that I wouldn’t be able to finish it because it was so difficult. I think it took me about 5 months to pick it up again and finally finish it and I cried and wanted to throw the book across the room several times trying to get through the scenes of betrayal. I do think it was well written and the characters were developed but I kept thinking, “just talk to each other!!” And I’m sure you can guess how that went. They didn’t. They had to learn from their mistakes. And I had to dehydrate from crying because these two people I connected with on the pages were making mistakes that could very easily not be forgiven.
There are other break-up scenarios that have been portrayed in our lesfic stories though and I’ve enjoyed comparing them to my life. They’ve been pretty different in their way of creating that conflict in the story, for example, what would you do if your partner decides that another person needs to be added to the relationship? They would live with you and your partner, they would have sex with your partner as would you, they would contribute to the household income as would you.
Would that be alright or would that be your breaking point? It would be something that would make your partner happy but is giving them all the happiness you can include bringing a third person into the bedroom? Or what if someone stole a job lead? Are you able to keep a personal life and professional distance all at the same time or would that be a breaking point? How about going a little more supernatural, what if you found out your girlfriend had been bitten by a vampire or werewolf? Would it make a difference if the bite was intentionally taken by your girlfriend or if in some weird situation she was bitten?
Could you continue to live with a vampire/werewolf possibly being turned yourself or would that be a reason to break up? How about if your partner moved away? Would you be able to do the long distance thing knowing you may never live in the same city again or it taking several years for that to happen or would you rather allow each of you to start fresh? Then of course there is the closet. What if you weren’t allowed to come out of the closet even in this time of so many rights being returned to the LGBT community?
Would you be able to stay in that type of relationship or would it be too much and create the break-up? Or yet another one, what if you believed your girlfriend revealed intimate details of your past to the media? Would that be your breaking point? Could you forgive someone for that betrayal when it meant a media frenzy? And lastly, in yet a different story, what if you found out that your girlfriend had a criminal past? Could you overlook her past in lieu of your present or would it be your breaking point?
What are some stories you’ve read with an interesting break-up scenario? Are you someone who doesn’t mind the infidelity story line or does it create too much heartache and/or anger for you to read? Our lesfic authors are amazing in their creativity of characters, their good points and their bad and how they all factor into them becoming possible breaking points for their relationships. As a reader I would love to hear what your favorites are!
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