Life Goals by Kate Christie (plus a FREE book!)

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Check it out! Author Kate Christie joins us today and she’s giving away a couple of free ebooks! Yeah, she’s really that cool. Drop a comment below to enter the drawing for one ebook copy each of Training Ground (published in June) and Game Time (coming out next month).

Life Goals by Kate Christie

Last week, my wife Kris and I donned our US Women’s National Team soccer gear and sat down with our three young daughters to cheer on our team against Sweden in the Olympic quarterfinals. Two hours later, Kris and I were hoarse from shouting at the television during a game that included two called-back goals (during overtime) and a penalty kick shoot-out, and the girls were watching us with wide eyes as we turned away from the onscreen melee of—spoiler alert!—Sweden celebrating their shocking win over the US.

Kate-girls-soccerKate and the girls cheering on the USWNT

“Wow,” Kris said to me. “I can’t believe that just happened. I feel empty.”

“I know, right?” I agreed. “I wasn’t ready for that. I don’t even know how to feel.”

For those of you who aren’t sports fans, it may be difficult to comprehend how anyone could react that strongly to a televised sporting event. But to me, soccer isn’t just a game. It’s the outlet that got me through the most difficult periods of my life, the activity that introduced me to my best friends, the vehicle that carried me to this specific place and point in my life. Without soccer, I wouldn’t have Kris or our daughters, our house in the woods or our dogs, or even, possibly, my writing career. Without soccer, I may not even have survived.

Okay, so that last sentence sounds a wee bit melodramatic. As a Gen Xer I have long been trained to rely on irony and eschew sentimentality in all its spurious, supposedly intellect-weakening forms. But then again, as a writer and reader I privilege love stories with happy endings. Lesbian love stories, even. Obviously I’ve managed to resist cultural programming on a variety of levels.

Culture isn’t all that easy to resist, though, especially not for those of us who grow up knowing we’re different from most people. When I say something like “soccer saved me,” I really mean that as a gay, gender-nonconforming kid, soccer gave me a space where my body could propel me to success rather than merely function as an object of ridicule. Being a tomboy may not have been socially acceptable in other arenas, but on the soccer field my rough and tumble ways were encouraged. Later, in high school, sports provided a female-dominated atmosphere where I could be admired for what I did rather than how I looked or who I dated, both of which were problematic for little ole queer me. Even after I left high school and awkward adolescence behind, I continued to play soccer but in an entirely different setting. At Smith College, a women’s college in Western Massachusetts, being queer and an androgynous jock were not just tolerated but actively celebrated.

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In addition to providing community and self-acceptance, soccer gave me a way to get out of my head. And as a survivor of childhood trauma, I definitely needed that escape. In my most recent novel, Training Ground ( , the two viewpoint protagonists meet at a soccer tournament a few months after one survives a traumatic experience. Much of the novel explores the aftermath of trauma, both how it affects the survivor as well as how it impacts friends and family members. Like me, my character Jamie finds relief from anxiety and stress on the field, where her conscious self recedes and her soccer brain takes over:

Soccer did what it always did—took her out of her head and located her inside her body, where she became the action required of her in any given situation: sprinting, tackling, resting, passing, crossing, shooting.

More than that, the game allows her to feel strong and accomplished, in control of her body and of her future. Playing soccer brings her joy, a difficult emotion to conjure in the aftermath of trauma. For Jamie, soccer functions as a form of therapy as necessary to her recovery as the talk therapy sessions she attends.

Growing up, the only thing I loved as much as playing soccer was writing. Telling stories forced me to inhabit other people’s skin—even if my characters in the beginning were only thinly veiled versions of myself—and let me escape my anxious mind the same way that tracking down a breakaway did. It’s probably not a surprise, then, that Solstice (, my first published novel from Bella Books, was about high school soccer players reunited a decade later far from their hometown. Soon after I penned the first draft of Solstice I decided to take a leave from my tech job in Seattle to focus on writing. A former college teammate had just become the head soccer coach at Mount Holyoke College and needed an assistant, so I returned to Western Massachusetts intending to enjoy a few months of soccer, writing, and the New England autumn.

WorldCupFinalsKate, Kris & friends at the 2015 World Cup final

In a case of life following fiction, that decision altered the course of my life. I fell in love with Kris, the aforementioned soccer coach, and didn’t make it back to Washington state for five years. By then Kris and I were legally married and talking about starting a family. Fast forward a decade and three children later, and I’m about to publish my ninth novel, Game Time (, book two in the Girls of Summer series. My competitive soccer-playing days may be well behind me, but I have the writing career I always wanted and the spouse and family that, growing up, I never even dared dream of.

That lonely girl is still inside me, and I still sometimes turn to sports and fiction—both reading and writing—to escape the memories of trauma. But I believe that I have grown into a capable woman, wife, and mother, and I intend to keep writing queer love stories with happy endings. I intend to keep writing stories about broken, damaged girls and women who find their way to wholeness and family, love and light. Because in the end, that’s the journey we’re all on. Even the would-be cynical Gen Xers among us.

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kate_christieKate Christie is the best-selling author of Leaving LA, Gay Pride & Prejudice, and Goldie-award winner In the Company of Women. Game Time, book two in the Girls of Summer series, is due out in September 2016 and is available for pre-order on Amazon. Sign up for Kate’s mailing list ( to receive email notifications of her latest publications, or check out her blog Homodramatica (, where she writes about lesbian life, motherhood, and fiction.


78 thoughts on “Life Goals by Kate Christie (plus a FREE book!)

  1. Football helped me in many ways when I was young. Glad it brought you such obvious happiness and sorry about the defeat but there’s a World Cup coming soon….

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  2. Cool, always looking for a new author to follow and read! That US soccer game took us all by surprise and not in a good way. Time to move into football season. Go Pats and Go Blue!

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  3. Enjoyed the 4 of your books I have and will definitely add these two to my to-be-read list. Sports weren’t really an option for leading baby boomers where I grew up. I know without a doubt it would have made a tremendous difference to me if they had been available. Keep writing and thanks for your generosity.

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  4. I came to my soccer fandom late, and that through the USWNT, go figure. I cheer for my Canadian women just as hard. I was stunned Sweden beat the USWNT as well. I’ve not read either of these books yet, but I certainly want to now!

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    1. The US and Canada have said some really good games over the year. Being so close to Vancouver, I tend to cheer for your team to–as long as they’re not playing us… Congrats on the bronze medal. I was so happy for Sinclair.

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  5. What an inspiring story about writing, love, family and soccer. Thanks for sharing all of this with us. I was cheering up the U.S. Women’s National Team soccer till the end too, missing our beloved Abby every time. Still can’t believe how it ended but, I’m even prouder than ever of our Team.They are the best! I loved Leaving LA and would love to read all your books, Kate, they certainly are in my list. Please, count me in 🙂 and congratulations on your new realease.

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  6. This is a wonderful essay, the immense value of sports, of soccer, for a girl growing up different. My own life seems to be described by a scottish proverb, Without music life would be a mistake. You might say the same about soccer.

    I watched the game v. Sweden, wearing my new Mallory Pugh shirt, and I did not see that end coming. Crushing. It is not easy to be a fan. But still in all, thank you so much for your writing, and for bringing soccer into my world. You have shown how the story that is an escape can be part of healing.

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    1. Hi Charley! Nice to see you on W&W. I’m psyched that you have a Pugh shirt. Kris and I started calling her “the baby” last year when she joined the Victory Tour, and now the girls point at the TV when they see her flash by and ask, “Is that the baby?!”

      Thanks for your kind comments about the post. I love the Scottish proverb–I am Scottish (my grandfather James Christie came to the US at age ten), so the proverb is perfect with the single word swap. Hope you have a great rest of the summer!


    1. Merci, and greetings back to you! Montreal plays a very brief cameo toward the end of book one, Training Ground. I spent a week there in college with friends and fell in love with the city.


  7. Not my favourite tips of relaxation, as in my formative years my stepfather forced me to watch sports, forbidding books. Kind of traumatic – forming distaste to sport watching. Reading about sport is something else.

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    1. I’m happy you enjoyed TG! I’ve really loved writing this series so far. I would probably just keep going ad nauseum, but I’m not sure the reader enthusiasm would last through five or six books… 😉 Anyway, thanks for the comment!


  8. In The Company of Women is one of my favorites. Love your books. Will read the new one soon as it comes out.
    When you are 80 you have lots of time to read. And sports stories are the first on my reading list.

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    1. As a non-vet, I tried very hard to get certain aspects of the military experience right for In the Company of Women, so it’s especially nice to hear that you as a veteran enjoyed the novel. Also, you never know when you write something if it’ll speak to anyone outside your own age group, so thanks for that, too. Happy reading, Sue!


  9. I loved Solstice and Beautiful Game. I’m looking foorward to this two new books of you. I allways played sport in my life, it’s a great way to learn about friendship, helping each others and competition. I would be honored to get a feee copy, otherwise I will buy it. Thank you Kate for your storys. 😊

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    1. So nice to hear you enjoyed my other soccer novels. I think they are my favorites to write. This series in particular has allowed me to follow the characters through different settings and events, which is kind of a luxury. Normally I have to write more tightly, but with several volumes planned, I don’t have to be stingy with my words. Which is probably a bit dangerous, since I can get a little wordy as it is… Anyway, happy sports-ing and reading!

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  10. I loved all your previous books, so am looking forward to reading both of the Girls of Summer series. This blog will make the books even more enjoyable.

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  11. Hi Kate,
    Have all of your books – including Training Ground – and am always on the lookout for your new work. You are a wonderful writer! I never find the use of wrong words (the old “there, their, they’re” errors that – I admit it – drive me nuts!) and appreciate the polished, completely edited, quality of your works. Looking forward to the new “book two in the Girls of Summer series”

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    1. Hi Lynn! Thanks so much for the kind comments. I am a bit of a grammar stickler too, which is why I try to make sure my manuscripts are as error-free as possible. I think this falls in the category “Sometimes Being a Little OCD is Awesome!” 😉
      Hope you enjoy book two. Happy reading!


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