Another year is almost gone. Don’t we all too often have expectations for the new year? I’m not talking about resolutions, which I don’t make anyway. I’m talking about expectations.
It’s going to be a better year.
This will be the year I get a new job.
This year, I’m going to make sure that I do XYZ.
I’ve done all of the above, and more. I’ve also done less. Or nothing. There have been years when I had zero expectations. And sometimes that’s the best way to go. In fact, it’s pretty much the only way I go anymore.
See, I learned something a while back. All the wishing and wanting in the world can’t make things happen. You can certainly do things that will push the situation in your favor, but ultimately, it’s all up to fate. So to have this belief that because the calendar has to be changed that somehow this thing that you’ve been wanting will suddenly come into your life is not very realistic or grounded in anything reliable.I know, I know. There are those of you out there who believe in positive thinking, that creating positive channels in your mind will bring about change. And there are those of you who have “feelings” about the way things are going to go. But I am a staunch realist. I’ve tried so hard, in so many ways, to walk down the positive-thinking road, but my own stubbornness and life disappointments get in my way.
So here’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to say the following:
I hope that I will write more.
I hope that this will be the year I get another job.
I hope that I find the energy, will, and persistence to lose some weight and get back into shape.
I hope that I will be able to see my friends more.
I hope that I will handle stressful situations better than I have this past year.The wish for peace, a better world, and good health among my loved ones is eternal and evergreen, so there’s no point in making a special issue of those. But I do hope that the new year brings those things, too.
That’s all I can really do. And who knows, maybe the Universe will smile upon me and grant me some of those wishes.
One thing we can control for sure is who/what we support. I’m happy to say that Learning Curve: An Anthology of Lessons Learned is officially out! Dirt Road Books is donating all proceeds to One Girl, which provides education to girls in Africa. If you buy only one book for the holidays, please make it Learning Curve and join the fight to better the lives of girls everywhere.
I hope the the new year brings all good things to you and yours, and will reveal better days for us all. Happy holidays, and Happy New Year!