2018: Smell ya later!

2018I hope this blog post finds everyone well and rested. It’s hard to believe, but 2018 is very quickly coming to a close and the shiny, new year is right around the corner. I’m giddy with excitement to close the fuh-reaking door on the utterly craptastic year 2018 turned out to be. Ugh!

Honestly, though, and I don’t know about everyone else, but I have always loved New Year’s Eve. It feels as if it holds such promise. New and wonderful things are waiting on the horizon. Resolutions that we all want so badly to actually succeed at this time around. All you have to do is be patient and have perseverance and the good and incredible will happen. Right?

For me, flipping on the television and waiting eagerly as the ball drops in Times Square in New York City has always been one of the highlights of the current year. It seems odd, though, doesn’t it? That one of the best moments of our year is spent being eager for the next…

timeA lot of our lives is lived like that, though, isn’t it? Feverishly waiting to turn the page instead of absorbing everything we just read.

I get it, though! I really, really do! For a lot of people, myself included, this year had moments that sucked a giant bag of… well, you know what I want to say. But as the saying goes, in every gray cloud there lies a silver lining.

So, in an attempt to find the positive and not focus on the complete shit show 2018 actually was… I’m going to ask each one of you reading this to post something awesome that happened to you in 2018. That is if you feel like sharing, of course. Sometimes it’s enough to just sit back and remember those times you smiled instead of frowned, laughed instead of cried, held your chest in happiness instead of clutched it with despair.

In the spirit of fairness and honesty, I’ll go first! (Let’s be real, you all knew this was coming.)

While this year was particularly interesting on my end, it still held quite a few wonderful moments. Living in Florida has its advantages and I went to Disney more times than I can count, which if you know me at all, you know I love Disney so much! My first book, Falling into Her, was nominated for a Goldie and was chosen as a finalist. I was able to meet a lot of really awesome authors that I’ve been reading for a very, very, very long time. I went to Vegas! And had an amazing time. But who doesn’t have an amazing time amongst the glitz and glitter and of Vegas? I was able to celebrate one of my very best friend’s fortieth birthday with her in Chicago, my favorite city on this planet. I met some amazing readers in Provincetown during Women’s Week, which was so completely surreal to me.

breaking down her wallsOne of the other awesome things that happened is my second book was published. Breaking Down Her Walls hit the shelves this month and I couldn’t be more excited about that! It’s a homage to my home state of Colorado, where my heart runs free amongst the backdrop of the Rocky Mountains. It’s also a story of doing exactly what I’m doing now, finding the wonderful when the horrible seems to be all you can remember.

smileHopefully anyone reading this has thought about a few times they smiled this year. As my girl Truvy said in Steel Magnolias, “Smile! It increases your face value!”

Instead of saying that 2018 was a dark cloud with a silver lining, which is apropos, but severely clichéd, let’s say another line from my favorite movie, “that which does not kill us, only makes us stronger,” and let’s rock the hell out of 2019.

Good luck, everyone!

And please, remember this: you’re all important and worth it and special. Have fun out there!

(PS: I know Clairee wasn’t the first person to say, “that which does not kill us, only makes us stronger.” But I love her and she is amazing. Period.)


  1. Heya Erin! Two memorable moments from 2018… I retired from FedEx Express, after 33 years loving my job & I got my awesome puppy, Ellie! I hope you have a healthy & prosperous 2019! 🍾🥂💫

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  2. 2018 rates up there as the worst year of my life, and still great things happened. My baby sister (also my BFF) visited from Florida for the first time since we moved to the Oregon coast 5 years ago; and my wife and I took an amazing road trip to Vegas and back – that it included Ashley Barrett made life worth living. Great colum see you in Pittsburgh for GCLS xo Lainie PS I still hold Dylan McDermott responsible for killing Julia Roberts.

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    • Definitely sounds like a wonderful trip and year! Can’t wait to see you in Pittsburgh. 🙂 ALSO, you’re so right, he *knew* she wasn’t supposed to have children! *sobs*


  3. We made it through the Northern California wildfires that were surrounding us. The coming together of community, neighbors, friends to help each other has been truly great. We are healthy. We survived the news.

    We did Lesbian Book Bingo with Jae and read wonderful stories and now have new authors to continue to read.

    We made it! Happy New Year everybody!! Enjoyed your column, thanks.

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    • Honestly, this is an amazing reply. Made me all teary eyed. I’m so glad that you made it through those fires. It’s amazing when people come together like that and even though the reason was horrific, witnessing was probably very incredible.


  4. Well 2018 was certainly one of the most difficult and challenging years of my life and I can’t wait to kick it out the door. However, I was once again reminded multiple times throughout the year what a wonderful group of friends and family I am blessed with. We still have 3 days to go so I can’t breathe a sigh of relief quite yet, but it’s certainly within shouting distance.

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    • I hear ya about kicking it out the door. This year sucked! So, I’m very glad you have great friends and family that were able to be your stars in the dark night!


  5. I received full time work and had it extended by 2 years, by my boss a few weeks ago . Among some shitty things that happened as well, this was a definite highlight.

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  6. Got a collection of my own work generously accepted for publication by Dirt Road Books. Met up with DL King at the Lambda Awards Ceremony, where we both had finalists, in NYC. Neither of us won, but the book that did win had a story of mine in it, so okay. Got my 99 year old father’s house sold, now that he’s in extended care close to me, to a young family that really appreciates it.

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  7. After attending Harry Potter and the Cursed Child on Broadway in August, I randomly ran into Bold Strokes Books authors Nell Stark and Trinity Tam at an outdoor ice cream and burger place!!! Of all the people between Michigan and NYC, what are the odds??? Best shocking moment of 2018 for me!

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  8. 2018 was a rough year for many reasons. However on the bright side, I found some awesome women who have become good friends…one on the other side of the Country and another across the ocean.


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